In the interest of telling the whole story, i'm putting this sad blog in. we have since realized that some cops just like to close cases, regardless of facts. Mike did not shoot himself.
SATURDAY, OCTOBER 1, 2011 2:26 AM
Most of you know Mike broke his ankle last year and was in pain for many months. While starting to almost feel like himself again, he began the "Kidney Stone from Hell" ordeal.
Get out your metric rulers. It was 8mm by 6 mm, football shaped and just STUCK on his left side. This monster was unwilling to move no matter what!!! We tried every Internet homemade recipe ro flush it out, homeopathic remedies and herbs from health food stores, holistic medicine and so many different pain medications which never gave him complete relief. At best, it would take the edge off. With no health care, it was 6 months before he had Lithotrypsy to break it up so it could become dislodged. It didn't work and it is still in the exact place as when we started.
A month ago, tiny pieces started coming out. I thought Halleluiah, we're finally getting somewhere. Mike thought "how much longer can I take this pain" Now nit wanting to drink, for fear he would pass something, yet knowing that's exactly what needed to happen.
Then 6 or so weeks ago, he was taking a break from Paddling on his Stand Up board and was sitting on a big rock in a cove above Negro Bar. He was just finishing reading the sports page that he'd brought in his waterproof pouch and was listening to his iPod. He did not hear the man that came up from behind him to attack him. He was hit over the head with a rock , twice he thinks, and was knocked down to the sand. The guy then was shoving his face in the water and he had a huge bump on his forehead and multiple scratches around his head ms cuts on his knees. Mike fought him off by throwing him into the deep cove. The man was fully dressed with a thick jacket on, on a 90 degree day. Mike never saw him come back up out of the water. He assumed he drowned. He got on his board and started to paddle back downstream, Looking for him the entire time. Not really sure what he was going to do if he found him but thinking he should pull him put of the water.
He was feeling so despondent over this and began having crazy, scary nightmares 3 or 4 times a week. He would yell out and jerk his arms around and when I'd wake him he would be so upset This is a guy who remembers dreaming maybe 10 times his entire life.
Well now for these past 6 weeks he's been exhausted from the kidney stone pain, but would fight sleep because of the nightmares. I was looking into counseling to help with the nightmares and still trying to find THE pain medication that's was going to give him COMPLETE relief. Needless to say, it's been very stressful at The Doyles for over a year.
We joke a lot and laugh a lot together. This is how we cope. When he wasn't his normal self, I attributed it to him being tired and/or in pain. I COULD NOT believe how well he could keep up with work and what ever else he had to do or wanted to do (two sons got married this year).
So, the saddest part to this story is Mike wasn't shot. He shot himself. He is actually shocked and cannot believe it happened. He remembers before and he remembers after. But does not remember doing it. The cops showed him evidence to prove to him that he did it. I saw the evidence and that's also what it says to me. (I do not want to explain how). This makes no sense to me as Wednesday was an ordinary day. We prayed, we kissed, we joked with each other, we worked together ....same as most other days. I didn't know this was what happened til 2 days ago.
So he's getting the medication and counseling he needs. He assumes at some point he'll remember the middle part of last weeks horrible event. For now, he doesn't want to remember and just wants to get better. If he brings it up during a visit , feel free to talk about it. If he doesn't, please don't ask questions
The love from his family, his wonderful friends and the blessings from our Heavenly Father are the unseen yet most important ingredients in what is expected to be a full recovery.
I read this to Mike and asked if he wanted me to post it. He said yes and wanted me to do it at this time.
Love to all,
Lorrie
Get out your metric rulers. It was 8mm by 6 mm, football shaped and just STUCK on his left side. This monster was unwilling to move no matter what!!! We tried every Internet homemade recipe ro flush it out, homeopathic remedies and herbs from health food stores, holistic medicine and so many different pain medications which never gave him complete relief. At best, it would take the edge off. With no health care, it was 6 months before he had Lithotrypsy to break it up so it could become dislodged. It didn't work and it is still in the exact place as when we started.
A month ago, tiny pieces started coming out. I thought Halleluiah, we're finally getting somewhere. Mike thought "how much longer can I take this pain" Now nit wanting to drink, for fear he would pass something, yet knowing that's exactly what needed to happen.
Then 6 or so weeks ago, he was taking a break from Paddling on his Stand Up board and was sitting on a big rock in a cove above Negro Bar. He was just finishing reading the sports page that he'd brought in his waterproof pouch and was listening to his iPod. He did not hear the man that came up from behind him to attack him. He was hit over the head with a rock , twice he thinks, and was knocked down to the sand. The guy then was shoving his face in the water and he had a huge bump on his forehead and multiple scratches around his head ms cuts on his knees. Mike fought him off by throwing him into the deep cove. The man was fully dressed with a thick jacket on, on a 90 degree day. Mike never saw him come back up out of the water. He assumed he drowned. He got on his board and started to paddle back downstream, Looking for him the entire time. Not really sure what he was going to do if he found him but thinking he should pull him put of the water.
He was feeling so despondent over this and began having crazy, scary nightmares 3 or 4 times a week. He would yell out and jerk his arms around and when I'd wake him he would be so upset This is a guy who remembers dreaming maybe 10 times his entire life.
Well now for these past 6 weeks he's been exhausted from the kidney stone pain, but would fight sleep because of the nightmares. I was looking into counseling to help with the nightmares and still trying to find THE pain medication that's was going to give him COMPLETE relief. Needless to say, it's been very stressful at The Doyles for over a year.
We joke a lot and laugh a lot together. This is how we cope. When he wasn't his normal self, I attributed it to him being tired and/or in pain. I COULD NOT believe how well he could keep up with work and what ever else he had to do or wanted to do (two sons got married this year).
So, the saddest part to this story is Mike wasn't shot. He shot himself. He is actually shocked and cannot believe it happened. He remembers before and he remembers after. But does not remember doing it. The cops showed him evidence to prove to him that he did it. I saw the evidence and that's also what it says to me. (I do not want to explain how). This makes no sense to me as Wednesday was an ordinary day. We prayed, we kissed, we joked with each other, we worked together ....same as most other days. I didn't know this was what happened til 2 days ago.
So he's getting the medication and counseling he needs. He assumes at some point he'll remember the middle part of last weeks horrible event. For now, he doesn't want to remember and just wants to get better. If he brings it up during a visit , feel free to talk about it. If he doesn't, please don't ask questions
The love from his family, his wonderful friends and the blessings from our Heavenly Father are the unseen yet most important ingredients in what is expected to be a full recovery.
I read this to Mike and asked if he wanted me to post it. He said yes and wanted me to do it at this time.
Love to all,
Lorrie
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